Madonna’s an ICON…and still shackled by the same chains as the rest of us
Did you know that recently Madonna was admitted to the hospital? The news said that she needed to be revived. She recovered after a stint in the ICU.
Now, I haven’t been a big Madonna fan since the 80s when she was part of my everyday soundtrack of life. But, I was struck by her IG post to her fans after the fact…
The tone and topic was about not wanting to disappoint her fans or her crew.
She almost died…
And she was worried about not disappointing people by canceling her shows (to take care of herself!). Something about this felt so icky to me…like she didn’t feel like she was allowed to take time and recover. Like her worth would decrease if she took time for herself.
“In actuality, disappointing someone is usually about not doing something that they want or expect you to do.”
As someone who was taught that disappointing people meant that I lost my value and lovability, this struck me like a kick to the gut…and was so very familiar.
I was somewhat shocked to see the same chains that keep other women down, that kept me down, also pull at someone like Madonna!
Sound familiar to you too?
Seems like maybe Madonna was taught something similar to me about lovability and value…this way of being is woven into the fabric of our souls by the culture around us…
From this viewpoint we put others’ needs before our own
Taking care of yourself or putting yourself first is considered selfish
From this perspective our value exists solely in what we do for others…
Guess what though? None of that is accurate. You are valuable because you are you. You are here. You are lovable.
And disappointment? In actuality, disappointing someone is usually about not doing something that they want or expect you to do.
It is about the other person’s expectations and has nothing to do with you or your value or your lovability.
When we fill our own cup with love and nourishment we are better able to make decisions from a place of personal integrity. We are better able to care for ourselves and show up in the world in all of our vibrancy.
How are you honoring your own needs today?
With love and care,
Emy
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